Tips on Using Social Media During Separation and Divorce

The wheels of justice may have a reputation for turning slowly but technology certainly does not. It seems at least once a month if not much more often there is a new social media app like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, etc.

While you may be doing a good job of monitoring your children’s Tik Tok profiles to keep them safe, what are you doing to make sure you cover your own bases? This is something that every person needs to be concerned with, especially if they are separating from their spouse, anticipating a divorce, or fighting for custody.

Here are some tips for using your apps until your family matters are settled:

1. Make it private – Most forms of social media give their users the option of making their profiles private. That means when someone you haven’t expressly accepted as a “friend” or who haven’t allowed to “follow” you looks up your profile, they can usually only see a picture and your name (Additional pro-tip: be careful with your profile pic). And if you’re casual enough to add any random stranger who asks to friend or follow you, just keep in mind that the person could very well be your ex’s lawyer.

2. Do not. We repeat. Do not post any photos of yourself with drugs, alcohol, weapons, etc. Sure, a hunting photo is fine and it isn’t going to lose you any points with most Arkansas judges, but if you have photos of yourself with a gun and wad of cash, you better believe a judge is going to hold that against you. You don’t have to be involved in a criminal case for something you put on Facebook to be incriminating.

3. Be the bigger person – Do not use your social media as way to talk trash about your ex or to try to make him/her jealous. Do not cuss or act petty, and do not excessively post photos of your new boo.

4. If you find yourself unable to follow tips 1 through 3, delete it. Get rid of it. Your social media accounts can be useful to your case if you follow those steps and just let your ex make mistakes trying to contact you using them, but they can also ruin any chance of attaining a favorable result.
You better believe one of the firsts things our experienced family law litigators do when they get a new client is dig up dirt on the opposing party. First stop for this train’s wheels of justice? Google.